I'm not entirely sure when it became appropriate to air ones grievances in public, but apparently is is now a common and acceptable practice. I have seen it numerous times on various networking sites, and at various business and social functions.
Recently, I angered someone. The details of what I did or did not do are irrelevant. The fact of the matter is that someone was angry with me and instead of speaking directly to me, this individual posted her feelings about the situation on Facebook, for all eyes to see. and for people to comment on and "like."
In another instance, during a board meeting for a non-profit, a young woman began berating her ex in front of a room full of people. She, like the other individual referenced above, seemed to think this activity was perfectly fine and appropriate. Meanwhile those of us sitting and waiting during the meeting had to listen as she dredged up past mistakes and issues.
In my world, when you are upset at someone, you speak with that person. You privately contact the person you are upset with and say, "Hey, that was not okay. I am very upset that you did this."
As I am writing this, I am fully aware that this is like the pot calling the kettle black. So, I'll make this a PSA: if you are upset with someone, instead of airing your dirty laundry in public, speak directly to that individual. It will save both you and s/he much embarrassment and may actually diffuse the anger instead of accelerate it.
Recently, I angered someone. The details of what I did or did not do are irrelevant. The fact of the matter is that someone was angry with me and instead of speaking directly to me, this individual posted her feelings about the situation on Facebook, for all eyes to see. and for people to comment on and "like."
In another instance, during a board meeting for a non-profit, a young woman began berating her ex in front of a room full of people. She, like the other individual referenced above, seemed to think this activity was perfectly fine and appropriate. Meanwhile those of us sitting and waiting during the meeting had to listen as she dredged up past mistakes and issues.
In my world, when you are upset at someone, you speak with that person. You privately contact the person you are upset with and say, "Hey, that was not okay. I am very upset that you did this."
As I am writing this, I am fully aware that this is like the pot calling the kettle black. So, I'll make this a PSA: if you are upset with someone, instead of airing your dirty laundry in public, speak directly to that individual. It will save both you and s/he much embarrassment and may actually diffuse the anger instead of accelerate it.
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